Answer: Which Gender did it? #HeForShe

Spouse-1 would make themselves cry to make spouse-2 feel guilty.
So, is spouse-1 the wife or the Husband?

Answer in the comments
Week from today you will know which one it was.


5 thoughts on “Answer: Which Gender did it? #HeForShe

  1. Assuming that this relationship is heterosexual, I think Spouse 1 is the husband. Intuitively I believe that men are immune to tears so they wouldn’t respond guiltily if their wives cried.


    1. Thank you for being the first to comment on this. I totally understand how you feel. We have run into the same kind of men more than likely. However, I must say that not all of the men I have had in my life have been that way. I feel it is unfair to say an entire gender is incapable of any characteristic of humanity because of the few experiences we have had out of 7 billion people on the planet.

      For I have come across men that want the women in their lives, wife or girlfriend, to be happy. To see the women they love crying, because of something they have said or done, would make them feel guilty. And I have witnessed women using tears to manipulate those kinds of men to get what they want out of them.

      I know you didn’t ask for this but I can’t help but to say: I do hope you let go of that belief because if you hold to it, those will be the kind of man you will be subconsciously attracted to be it friend or lover. SR


  2. I’m not intending to denigrate an entire gender. Following the societal presentation of men being stoic and unmoved by emotions as opposed to reason, it is understandable that my conclusion developed as it did. These sort of thought postulates are structured in ways to feed off of the stereotypes that people have been conditioned to believe. As humans, it has become evolutionarily beneficial to categorize entire groups with generalizations in order to know how to interact with them in an effective manner.

    You chose to criticize my “beliefs” by presenting exceptions to my perceived societal stereotype. I am fully aware that no stereotype is all encompassing. Simply that the majority of that group that society has interacted with were more memorable as acting stoic and immune to emotional manipulation. However you just did what you criticized me of doing – stereotyping the manner in which I interact with any man based on one comment.


      1. It’s been a week and the answer is the husband. He was controlling, overly emotional, and manipulative.

        These are characteristics I have heard many man complain about when it comes to women (even the husband in this conversation). After watching a comedian talk about this recently. I thought it would be interesting to see what people would say on my blog, sadly, not much. But I was hoping this may illustrate that we don’t all ways know things even within stereotypes or what people do or don’t say in a comment as I have inadvertently done. (Again, I am sorry should’ve known better).

        The only thing I will say about your last comment, alwardable, is that I don’t believe that we need stereotypes to interact with others. We need to get to know people through open-minded interactions with out preconceived notions. Are there similarities among people with the same psychological issues, yes, take note and stir clear of that behavior is what I believe people should do, not resort to generalizations. I don’t see generalizations as helping people interact with each other just helping people judge others.

        Sadly, I don’t think I will be doing something like this again. Because it can go into an argument really quick and that is something I am not interested in.


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